Where do I hesitate in relationships and why?
Dreamer Ten tells me that I hesitate in relationships because I am terrified of getting hurt. I'm terrified of having my heart ripped out again and I know that I could not handle this hurt again. Interestingly enough, Ten of Swords came up yesterday in a reading I received yesterday as a reason that I hesitate in relationships and it is a mental block and not a block from my heart. My brain has convinced me that I am unlovable, that I am not worthy of love, and that everyone out there who might be interested in me will take advantage of me and bleed me dry. I am projecting all of the hurt from my ex-husband on everyone else. As long as I continue projecting on everyone else, I will never be able to have a relationship because I will keep everyone at arm's length.
Dreamer Nine is interesting as I have nightmares about not being loved and being unloved forever, but it is my own fear that is keeping love at bay. There is no room in my life for love as long as I am haunted by nightmares of being hurt. I think it is time that I actually addressed the physical and emotional abuse that I received. For the most part, I've dealt with the emotional abuse and am in a place where I would recognize emotional abuse for what it was. I've also gotten so much stronger at setting boundaries and cutting people out of my life. I would also walk away after the first time someone hit me, but I'm terrified of letting someone close enough for there to be a first time. My mind has built barriers to opening up and letting people in to protect my body.
Dancer Seven is telling me that I am drowning in these illusions. I have so bought into my belief that anyone I meet would hurt me that I can't seem to release this and let it go. I have built my barricades up so high and I am so convinced that my only alternative is to keep people out. This is why I am in such a place of fear and it is so difficult for me to actually connect with people and make friends and have relationships.
This was an incredibly powerful and insightful reading and it has identified something I didn't realize before as I had kind of shrugged off the physical abuse my ex put me through and focused on the emotional abuse, but I've realized that my mind has built a lot of barriers to protect myself from this abuse.
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